Beyond the Phrase: How to Connect with Veterans

Recognizing the service of veterans is an important aspect of honoring their sacrifices. However, knowing when and how to say “thank you for your service” can sometimes be nuanced. Here’s a breakdown of situations where it’s generally considered okay and when it might be less appropriate.

When It’s OK to Say “Thank You for Your Service”:

In casual settings: If you encounter a veteran in a relaxed environment, like a coffee shop or community event, saying “thank you for your service” is usually well-received and appreciated.

Public events: During ceremonies, parades, or events honoring veterans, expressing gratitude is not only appropriate but expected.

On social media: Sharing your appreciation for veterans online, especially during holidays like Veterans Day or Memorial Day, is a positive way to show your support.

Wearing military apparel: If you see someone in military gear, a genuine “thank you” can be a nice way to acknowledge their service.

Personal connections: If you know someone personally who is a veteran, expressing your gratitude during conversations or gatherings is always appropriate.

When It Might NOT Be OK to Say It:

In sensitive contexts: If a veteran appears to be in distress, such as at a memorial service or hospital, it might be more respectful to refrain from comments about their service. Instead, offer support through listening or simply being present.

Conversations about trauma: If a veteran is discussing difficult experiences or traumas, saying “thank you for your service” may feel dismissive. In these cases, it’s better to listen and engage with empathy.

In professional settings: In work environments or formal meetings, mentioning a veteran’s service without context can feel out of place. It’s best to keep the conversation professional unless they initiate a discussion about their background.

During personal struggles: If you encounter a veteran who seems overwhelmed, anxious, or upset, focusing on listening and offering support can be more meaningful than a quick “thank you.”

If you’re unsure: If you’re uncertain whether someone is a veteran, especially if they’re wearing military-related apparel but don’t seem comfortable, you might choose to ask, “Did you serve?” first. This shows respect and gives them the option to share their story or not.

Understanding the context and being sensitive to the veteran’s feelings is key when deciding whether to express gratitude. Every veteran has a unique experience, and fostering genuine connections is more important than simply going through the motions.

So, the next time you see someone in military apparel or at a public event, consider your words carefully. A thoughtful question, a listening ear, or a simple smile can often mean more than the phrase itself.

Have you had a meaningful interaction with a veteran? Share your experiences in the comments, and let’s continue this conversation.

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Semper Fi!

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Author: Cpl. Wally Beddoe
Cpl, USMC 1981-1985 @thesucklife
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wendall d wilson
wendall d wilson
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2024-10-10 20:27

AS a Vietnam Veteran,even when I know it’s sincere,I still cringe a little when thanked.40 some years of being made out as a loser has left its scars,Still I love that Vets are Being Thanked.